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The Best Place to Work: The Art and Science of Creating an Extraordinary
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Workplace
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author: Ron Friedman
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asin: B00INIYFTS
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lastAnnotatedDate: '2021-01-06'
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bookImageUrl: 'https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/71IOpzyYZ2L._SY160.jpg'
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highlightsCount: 124
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# The Best Place to Work
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## Metadata
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* Author: [Ron Friedman](https://www.amazon.com/Ron-Friedman/e/B00LMRMDVE/ref=dp_byline_cont_ebooks_1)
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* ASIN: B00INIYFTS
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* ISBN: 0399165592
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* Pages: 354 pages
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* Publication: December 2, 2014
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* Publisher: TarcherPerigee; 1st edition (December 2, 2014)
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* Reference: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00INIYFTS
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* [Kindle link](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS)
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## Highlights
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professional advice on financial planning, elder — location: [137](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=137) ^ref-60740
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Creating an extraordinary workplace can pay significant dividends. — location: [155](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=155) ^ref-44636
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The Rock Island Islanders were holding open tryouts. — location: [222](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=222) ^ref-6853
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When the task we’re doing requires precision and minimizing mistakes, the enhanced sensitivity can benefit performance, but when our work involves creative thinking, total silence can be surprisingly detrimental. — location: [567](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=567) ^ref-6885
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Most of us have come across research showing that exercise improves mood. Recent studies have found that a regular workout regimen is an even more powerful mood elevator than prescription antidepressants. What’s less well known, however, is the profound impact exercise has on learning, memory, and creativity. — location: [1005](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=1005) ^ref-4812
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motion and regain the proficiency they once had — location: [1050](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=1050) ^ref-28056
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Creativity is just connecting things. — location: [1090](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=1090) ^ref-40023
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Would Google be nearly as profitable if its employees sat around — location: [1111](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=1111) ^ref-24593
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waiting for Larry Page and Sergey Brin to tell them what to do? — location: [1112](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=1112) ^ref-34031
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related argument can be made for the growing importance of maintaining a positive mood. — location: [1143](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=1143) ^ref-61792
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feeling irritable can have serious implications for performance. — location: [1144](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=1144) ^ref-53891
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Staying connected is addictive. — location: [1167](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=1167) ^ref-59860
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ongoing stress response in the brain. — location: [1169](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=1169) ^ref-35076
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Distract strategically. Exposing people to new and unexpected ideas makes them more creative. How do you put that insight to use? — location: [1246](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=1246) ^ref-65057
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granting employees the flexibility to determine their own schedule is likely to do far more to improve workplace performance by enhancing intrinsic motivation, communicating trust, and boosting employee loyalty. — location: [2252](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2252) ^ref-22374
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Your job is to ask questions and provide feedback, not steer the ship. — location: [2274](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2274) ^ref-40096
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we continuously yearn for more. The reason? It’s because a rise in income really does make us happier. It’s just that the initial thrill doesn’t last. — location: [2341](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2341) ^ref-3331
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When we feel accepted by those around us, we experience less stress, get better quality sleep, and recuperate more quickly from illness. — location: [2363](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2363) ^ref-55139
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Grow people’s experience of competence and you’ll inevitably grow their engagement. — location: [2369](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2369) ^ref-34290
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Being ignored is often more psychologically painful than being treated poorly. — location: [2382](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2382) ^ref-26022
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we immerse ourselves in a world that offers instant feedback on our performance and a sense of accomplishment when we succeed. — location: [2385](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2385) ^ref-18139
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we are happier pursuing long-term rather than short-term goals. We also feel better when our goals center on benefiting others instead of ourselves. — location: [2482](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2482) ^ref-6716
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having a clear understanding of the goal we’re trying to achieve, and immediate feedback on our performance. — location: [2504](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2504) ^ref-6502
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Chess, golf, and painting all fit this criteria and represent prototypical flow experiences. — location: [2505](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2505) ^ref-25218
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progressive difficulty. — location: [2507](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2507) ^ref-58691
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If the tasks we’re engaged in are too simple, we get bored. And if we find ourselves in situations that are too far beyond our skill level, we get overwhelmed. — location: [2508](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2508) ^ref-15394
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To create opportunities for flow in the workplace, we need to find the sweet spot that lies just beyond our current abilities. It’s when we’re stretching our skills and building our expertise that we are at our most engaged. — location: [2514](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2514) ^ref-2900
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just beyond — location: [2517](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2517) ^ref-31595
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Flow comes through growth, not stagnation. — location: [2518](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2518) ^ref-48637
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asking employees to set a stretch goal every quarter and to develop a specific plan for achieving it. — location: [2519](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2519) ^ref-64075
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When learning becomes part of our routine, we train ourselves to see new patterns and recognize important connections. — location: [2524](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2524) ^ref-53157
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Acquiring new information increases our production of dopamine, which improves our mood and heightens our interest in related activities. It makes everything we do more interesting. — location: [2527](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2527) ^ref-62860
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It’s when our work becomes predictable that intellectual gridlock sets in and critical thinking stops. — location: [2529](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2529) ^ref-57912
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psychological needs — location: [2534](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2534) ^ref-43431
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it’s not for the reasons we might expect. After an athlete reaches a certain level of expertise, the primary value of having a coach isn’t in receiving explicit instructions or even the discipline that a coach can provide. It’s in the coach’s ability to observe the athletes’ performance objectively and direct their attention to elements of their game that they are simply too close to appreciate. — location: [2537](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2537) ^ref-39254
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What would success look like on this project? What are some steps you’re considering taking? Who could you talk to who’s tackled a similar project? What can you do to chunk this project into manageable steps? — location: [2557](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2557) ^ref-3920
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in flow we always know what needs to be done. — location: [2574](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2574) ^ref-13868
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To experience flow in our work we need clear objectives so that we know where to apply our energy. — location: [2576](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2576) ^ref-39204
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It’s yet another thing video games do so well: provide players with a clear path forward. — location: [2577](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2577) ^ref-20574
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identify their next move, peer-to-peer coaching can help sustain the conditions that keep us at our most engaged. — location: [2580](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2580) ^ref-60598
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Engagement isn’t about the task; it’s about the conditions we build around it. — location: [2587](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2587) ^ref-17951
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feed their need for competence by extending new challenges, rewarding learning, and increasing responsibility. — location: [2592](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2592) ^ref-12143
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bewildered — location: [2656](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2656) ^ref-41499
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What do you do when a conversation is spiraling out of control? When you’ve tried all the reflective listening you can muster and the other person still isn’t willing to budge? How do you get the conversation back on track? — location: [2766](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2766) ^ref-55505
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task channel — location: [2770](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2770) ^ref-15536
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relationship channel. — location: [2770](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2770) ^ref-15937
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It’s at this point, Suchman argues, that our task-focused disagreement becomes contaminated with concerns about our relationship. And when that happens, things escalate. Fast. — location: [2777](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2777) ^ref-62177
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It helped protect us from oncoming predators and kept us alive long enough to reproduce. But in today’s workplace, an involuntary fear response can interfere with our ability to work collaboratively with others. — location: [2781](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2781) ^ref-59150
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Anytime you attend to people’s psychological need for connection, you have the potential of improving the quality of an exchange. — location: [2811](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=2811) ^ref-41997
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If you’re surrounded by people who are passionate and inspired, that’s likely to influence your experience. — location: [3033](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3033) ^ref-17560
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And finally, our colleagues don’t just have an impact on our emotional experience. They influence how successful we are at doing our job. Motivation is about more than just feeling. It’s about goals, effort, and persistence. Catching someone’s positive motivation changes our approach, which often leads to better results. — location: [3038](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3038) ^ref-62063
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Maintaining a positive emotional tone, by exercising, getting enough sleep, and taking time to emotionally disconnect, won’t just help sustain your psychological health. It will also help you get the most out of your team. — location: [3179](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3179) ^ref-63320
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Acknowledging employees for their hard work is vital to keeping them engaged, but that doesn’t mean that every positive behavior should be recognized the same way. — location: [3182](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3182) ^ref-14948
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Distance yourself from colleagues with a negative influence. — location: [3195](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3195) ^ref-54249
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Good-looking people are perceived as more intelligent, competent, and qualified than their less attractive colleagues, despite not being objectively better at any of these things. The more attractive the employees, the more likely they are to be hired, promoted, and retained when someone needs to be let go. — location: [3288](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3288) ^ref-19571
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We instinctively use a person’s voice to reach conclusions about his character. — location: [3301](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3301) ^ref-41609
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Men with lower voices actually are bigger and stronger (as well as higher in testosterone) than their high-pitched counterparts. Their voices convey an audible cue of their size. — location: [3315](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3315) ^ref-10473
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we tend to assume that warmth and competence are inversely related. — location: [3339](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3339) ^ref-16147
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Tell me about a time when you had a conflict with a supervisor. What steps did you take to resolve the conflict? — location: [3452](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3452) ^ref-17629
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Tell me about a time when you led a group. Describe what you did and — location: [3453](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3453) ^ref-26428
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how that reflects your leadership style. — location: [3454](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3454) ^ref-23893
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Past behavior is a strong predictor of future behavior, which is why learning how a candidate handled a particular situation can be useful. — location: [3456](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3456) ^ref-24435
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Suppose we land Project X and I assign you as the lead. How would you go about approaching the project? — location: [3460](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3460) ^ref-35743
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Say you’re about to go on a sales presentation for Company Y. What sort of research would you do to prepare for your meeting? — location: [3461](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3461) ^ref-38847
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Note taking during interviews also draws our attention to a candidate’s actual performance, minimizing the influence of false expectations. — location: [3464](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3464) ^ref-50528
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The company’s leadership correctly recognizes that the more settings you use to evaluate a candidate, the more accurately you can assess their true personality. — location: [3468](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3468) ^ref-799
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Only after impressions are shared privately should you enter into a group discussion. — location: [3472](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3472) ^ref-38275
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If hiring the right employee were simply a matter of identifying the most competent candidate, we would not need interviews. — location: [3478](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3478) ^ref-32857
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And the reason we don’t is that there’s more to finding the right candidate than technical ability. There’s their personality, their attitude, and the feeling we get when we’re in their company. — location: [3481](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3481) ^ref-36033
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What can you tell me about your experience at your current (or previous) job? — location: [3489](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3489) ^ref-10852
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Asking candidates to describe past experiences is one way of uncovering their emotional outlook. — location: [3494](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3494) ^ref-15723
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Teach me something I don’t know. — location: [3496](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3496) ^ref-22616
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One marker of a challenging personality is the tendency to describe oneself as a victim. The more people view themselves as victims, the easier it is for them to shirk personal responsibility for their circumstances. — location: [3503](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3503) ^ref-64382
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Another emotional red flag: sarcasm. While the occasional biting comment can spark a good laugh, frequent sarcasm tends to reflect dissatisfaction, which may be rooted in what some psychologists believe is anger and hostility. — location: [3506](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3506) ^ref-46617
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negative humor is often used to help people feel superior in situations where they perceive they have little control. — location: [3510](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3510) ^ref-23590
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For a growing number of organizations, cultural fit has become an important priority when reaching hiring decisions. Rather than simply selecting employees who have the necessary skills, companies like Zappos are now looking to ensure that new hires share common values before bringing them onboard. — location: [3519](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3519) ^ref-39272
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the more we have in common with our colleagues, the less likely we are to encounter a fresh perspective. This can be especially problematic when the work we do requires innovative thinking. — location: [3529](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3529) ^ref-14857
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Rather it was by motivating veteran team members to reexamine their assumptions and process data more carefully. Which is the very thing they neglected to do when everyone in their group was similar. — location: [3534](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3534) ^ref-10855
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When the work itself is simple and creative thinking is rarely required, establishing a homogenous workforce has its — location: [3537](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3537) ^ref-13512
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advantages. — location: [3538](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3538) ^ref-55632
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But as an organization matures, too much similarity can actually backfire. Replicating employees isn’t ideal—especially — location: [3542](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3542) ^ref-1178
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The glue that keeps the pieces together can also keep them stuck in place. — location: [3544](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3544) ^ref-22005
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Pride is the pleasurable feeling we get when we reflect upon achieving a socially desirable outcome, one that elevates our standing within our group. — location: [3623](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3623) ^ref-17539
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As social animals, we long to be viewed positively. It’s because being valued by others brings with it significant evolutionary advantages: more attention, greater influence, access to important resources. — location: [3624](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3624) ^ref-61565
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Pride and shame serve as emotional guideposts that tell us whether we’re succeeding at socially valued objectives. — location: [3629](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3629) ^ref-7844
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The more team members know about their organization’s past achievements, the more pride they can take in belonging to the group. — location: [3665](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3665) ^ref-7220
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When we feel like we belong to — location: [3666](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3666) ^ref-26319
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an organization with a storied tradition, it boosts our perceived status and elevates our connection to the team. — location: [3667](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3667) ^ref-63602
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Political and religious leaders often weave historical events into major speeches, building a sense of connection to the past before laying out their vision for the future. It’s an effective rhetorical technique. Invoking a group’s history gives listeners the sense that they are part of something bigger and makes membership feel more meaningful. — location: [3668](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3668) ^ref-9773
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Alla base della religione
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Which is why it makes sense to invest in educating new employees about a company’s history, to install visual displays in the workspace that highlight past achievements, and to use the occasional speech to remind existing team members of how far they’ve come. — location: [3674](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3674) ^ref-14485
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In order for workplace pride to emerge, you need a clear understanding of what makes it distinctive. — location: [3683](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3683) ^ref-17632
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organizations that have an explicit point of differentiation are at an advantage when it comes to fostering group pride. — location: [3684](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3684) ^ref-57861
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groups: a devotion to improving the lives of others. — location: [3689](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3689) ^ref-49008
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A final ingredient of pride-inducing groups: making each member feel like their contributions are valued. — location: [3712](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3712) ^ref-22803
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Each one of us matters. — location: [3714](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3714) ^ref-9286
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One way of making employees feel like their contributions matter at work is by helping them develop a sense of ownership. — location: [3714](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3714) ^ref-54800
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Another way of helping employees feel like their contributions matter is by expressing appreciation directly to their families. — location: [3722](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3722) ^ref-41587
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Studies show that when employees receive an unearned job title, they do experience an immediate boost in satisfaction—exactly as we would expect. Their elevated status even leads to a brief uptick in performance. But it doesn’t last. After a short interval, something funny happens. They grow dissatisfied and their job performance slides. — location: [3757](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3757) ^ref-12153
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Starbucks has baristas, Apple has geniuses, and Subway has sandwich artists. Technically they’re all customer service workers—but that’s not the way their organizations want employees or customers viewing these roles. — location: [3772](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3772) ^ref-54110
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The titles highlight that these positions require knowledge and specialized skills. — location: [3774](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3774) ^ref-14044
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Creative job titles can certainly attract attention and build enthusiasm for a role, particularly among younger, less experienced employees. — location: [3779](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3779) ^ref-28943
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Psychologists argue that pride comes in two forms: the positive, achievement-oriented pride we’ve discussed until this point, known as authentic pride; and a darker, more narcissistic version, called hubristic pride. It’s this latter version that Dante referred to as the most lethal of the seven deadly sins. — location: [3787](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3787) ^ref-51499
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“Those who glorify themselves have no merit; those who are proud of themselves do not last.” — location: [3790](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3790) ^ref-43642
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When our pride is authentic, we don’t feel the need to boast, act cocky, or show off. We become more confident and altruistic, growing our status not by dominating others but by sharing our knowledge and earning others’ respect. — location: [3791](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3791) ^ref-18400
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Research shows that people who score higher on measures of hubristic pride tend to be less cooperative, more aggressive, and ironically, more prone to experiencing shame. They are also more likely to rely on force and intimidation as strategies for building their status, which complicates their relationships and causes them to be disliked. What leads people to experience authentic versus hubristic pride? — location: [3794](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3794) ^ref-9497
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On the one hand, you might think, “I got promoted because I am talented.” Or you might say, “I got promoted because I’ve worked hard to keep up on the latest industry trends.” — location: [3798](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3798) ^ref-37466
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The second interpretation—I’ve worked hard—implies the opposite: Namely, that success is a matter of effort, not ability. Here, you’ve earned that promotion because of a specific course of action that you chose to implement. From this perspective, your success is a direct result of your hard work. — location: [3802](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3802) ^ref-11790
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the one that’s grounded in the belief that success is about what you do, not who you are—that fosters genuine pride. — location: [3805](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3805) ^ref-54501
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it’s as if by convincing others of our virtues we hope to simultaneously diminish our own insecurity. — location: [3808](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3808) ^ref-6117
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What this research suggests is that the way they talk about their team’s victory can have a powerful impact on the type of pride that’s experienced. — location: [3810](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3810) ^ref-64308
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The more pride people take in who they are, the less focused they are on the behaviors that actually help them succeed. — location: [3816](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3816) ^ref-47205
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For employees to feel pride in their workplace, they need to believe that their organization makes them look smart, accomplished, or giving. — location: [3819](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3819) ^ref-13008
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it’s tempting to focus all of your attention on what’s next. — location: [3824](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3824) ^ref-1198
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Publicize ownership. — location: [3826](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3826) ^ref-51707
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Requiring people to attach their name to their work leads them to feel more connected to their product, and enables them to experience a greater sense of pride when they succeed. — location: [3828](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3828) ^ref-36233
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ask them how they managed to be so effective. — location: [3837](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3837) ^ref-1341
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A 2010 study spanning 120 countries found that, internationally, 84 percent of employees are disengaged at work. — location: [3852](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3852) ^ref-20193
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How do you get employees engaged in their work? By providing opportunities for them to experience autonomy, competence, and relatedness on a daily basis. — location: [3885](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3885) ^ref-65297
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That can mean creating a variety of settings within an office, or it can mean allowing them the option of occasionally working from home, a coffee shop, or the beach. — location: [3889](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3889) ^ref-19738
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Some of our best contributions come when we’re away from our desks, distracting ourselves and allowing disparate ideas to meld. — location: [3913](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3913) ^ref-19009
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When we fulfill employees’ needs for autonomy, competence, and relatedness, when we allow them to leverage the full breadth of their mental capacity, when we provide them with the flexibility to succeed in both their personal and professional lives, we achieve more than an extraordinary workplace. — location: [3942](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3942) ^ref-33908
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“The only reason people agree to have children,” he declared with unwavering certainty, “is that they’re too naive to appreciate what they’re really getting themselves into.” — location: [3946](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3946) ^ref-50904
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people will read the statistics, but they’ll remember the stories” and “perhaps you could mention a few action items at the end of each chapter”) — location: [3972](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3972) ^ref-16339
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To my parents, who don’t quite understand what I do, but have remained quiet anyway; — location: [3975](kindle://book?action=open&asin=B00INIYFTS&location=3975) ^ref-46204
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